When the children leave the nest as their own independent adult, we know we have done our job to the best of our ability. Which is such a fantastic feeling. However, we are left asking ourselves "What now?"
We are still "Mothers, Mum, Mom," that does not change whatever their age.
But what has changed and is the biggest thing we may not have even thought about is, "What is our purpose now? "
The first step for Mothers, is to acknowledge and process the emotions you will encounter. Recognize and accept every emotion that comes through. There are no "negative" emotions so every thing we feel needs to be acknowledged whether we like them or not. Once we know what they are we are able to accept and work through them one step at a time. Give yourself permission to feel these emotions without any judgement as this is a significant life transformation.
Second step, reconnect with your personal identity by reflecting on interests and hobbies you had before becoming a mother and engage in activities that bring you happiness. If you can't remember or you're not interested in them anymore, try some new activities or hobbies which you have never even thought about before.
Third step, make an effort to meet new people strengthen your relationships by trying to reconnect with your partner, if you have one, rediscovering shared interests and goals, for example, a date night once a week. Strengthen existing friendships or meet new people who share similar interests or are even going through the same thing, never forget..
"You are not alone in this life transition!"
Fourth step, set new goals, work on your own personal growth, learn a new skill, travel, pursue a new career, start that business up which has been put on the back burner. Volunteer for a charity close to your heart or get involved in your local community to find a new sense of purpose.
Fifth step, establish a new routine by creating structure for self-care, exercise, social activities and personal goals. Balance work and pleasure by staying productive and allowing yourself to relax and enjoy this new phase of life.
Sixth step, embrace the future, shift your mindset to focus on the opportunities and freedom that come with this new chapter. Plan for the future by looking forward to future milestones such as spending time with grandchildren or pursuing long-term dreams.
I hope these steps can help you mothers out there who are going through this transition, from the role of a full-time parent to a fulfilling , independent life in the next stage.
Please comment below about any struggles that resonate with you, how you were able to overcome them.
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If you are struggling now, email me any questions, you may have to be able to move forward.
Stay safe
Julie
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